The search for happiness

The search for happiness

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Happiness is elusive. The more you seek the more it seems to evaporate! Hard to pin down and harder still to win.

So what is the secret? Why do some people seem happy? Why do other people never seem to smile?

Is someone happy because he so rich he doesn’t know what to do with his money? Is he happy because everywhere he goes people fawn on him? Is that what you want?

Perhaps you are asking the wrong question? What would make you happy?  What is it you need? What spiritual gift would make you happy?

There is a way to find the right question. Once you know the answer you can start on your journey to achieving it. Once you have the right goal in mind you will find that you no longer have the desperate search for happiness. Instead, you feel fulfilled.

Ask the right question

Are you ready to find the answer to what would really make you happy? If so try this little known but very effective test :

Take a big piece of paper. Divide it into two columns.

On the left write, “Why is it important for me to be happy?”

In the right column, answer with the first thing that comes into your head but do not use a negative word. It all needs to be positive. Suppose the answer is “abc”.

Then on the left write, “Why is abc important to me?” – and write your answer on the left.

Continue is this way until you come to some fundamental things, like being worthy,  being loved. You will sense when you have reached this point and it could take about 20 questions.

Then look back on your answers and see if there are pointers for you. They may be simple things you can implement straight away – in my case getting out of bed in the morning is made much easier now that I always make sure my kitchen is spotless before I go to bed – I hated waking up to washing up! This makes my morning happier.  

Taking small steps to hour goal, doing little things to increase your sense of self-worth or being a good mother/father, or whatever is really important to you gives you a sense of direction, achievement, and contentment. Happiness is no longer so elusive.

As you journey through life changes you will find that your goals also change. When I was young being fit was important and climbing Everest would have been a goal whereas now my goal is simply to be able to run up one flight of stairs without gasping for breath!  

Three extra strategies to support your journey towards happiness:

Talking to someone else helps. It might be your partner but it could also be someone you met at the bus stop. Sometimes talking to a stranger can be both a relief and gives a new perspective.

Many people find journaling helps to straighten out their thoughts and simplify the chaotic jumble in their minds. Putting your thoughts on paper means your brain can let them go, they no longer need to clutter up your mind.

Finally, meditation is now recognized as being beneficial. Most of us rush through life without taking the time to appreciate the simple things – the taste of food, the song of the birds, and the feel of the wind soughing through the trees. A walk in nature is both relaxing and energizing.  

Finding the right question and taking small steps to work your way towards it will give you the sense of purpose and achievement that makes your life rewarding and no longer the desperate search for that most elusive of goals – happiness.

Happiness is elusive. The more you seek the more it seems to evaporate! Hard to pin down and harder still to win.

So what is the secret? Why do some people seem happy? Why do other people never seem to smile?

Is someone happy because he so rich he doesn’t know what to do with his money? Is he happy because everywhere he goes people fawn on him? Is that what you want?

Perhaps you are asking the wrong question? What would make you happy?  What is it you need? What spiritual gift would make you happy?

There is a way to find the right question. Once you know the answer you can start on your journey to achieving it. Once you have the right goal in mind you will find that you no longer have the desperate search for happiness. Instead, you feel fulfilled.

Ask the right question

Are you ready to find the answer to what would really make you happy? If so try this little known but very effective test :

Take a big piece of paper. Divide it into two columns.

On the left write, “Why is it important for me to be happy?”

In the right column, answer with the first thing that comes into your head but do not use a negative word. It all needs to be positive. Suppose the answer is “abc”.

Then on the left write, “Why is abc important to me?” – and write your answer on the left.

Continue is this way until you come to some fundamental things, like being worthy,  being loved. You will sense when you have reached this point and it could take about 20 questions.

Then look back on your answers and see if there are pointers for you. They may be simple things you can implement straight away – in my case getting out of bed in the morning is made much easier now that I always make sure my kitchen is spotless before I go to bed – I hated waking up to washing up! This makes my morning happier.  

Taking small steps to hour goal, doing little things to increase your sense of self-worth or being a good mother/father, or whatever is really important to you gives you a sense of direction, achievement, and contentment. Happiness is no longer so elusive.

As you journey through life changes you will find that your goals also change. When I was young being fit was important and climbing Everest would have been a goal whereas now my goal is simply to be able to run up one flight of stairs without gasping for breath!  

Three extra strategies to support your journey towards happiness:

Talking to someone else helps. It might be your partner but it could also be someone you met at the bus stop. Sometimes talking to a stranger can be both a relief and gives a new perspective.

Many people find journaling helps to straighten out their thoughts and simplify the chaotic jumble in their minds. Putting your thoughts on paper means your brain can let them go, they no longer need to clutter up your mind.

Finally, meditation is now recognized as being beneficial. Most of us rush through life without taking the time to appreciate the simple things – the taste of food, the song of the birds, and the feel of the wind soughing through the trees. A walk in nature is both relaxing and energizing.  

Finding the right question and taking small steps to work your way towards it will give you the sense of purpose and achievement that makes your life rewarding and no longer the desperate search for that most elusive of goals – happiness.

Written by Elizebeth Horder

Written by Elizebeth Horder

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